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Parents have the responsibility of helping a child learn about future consequences. Anticipating consequences is called ‘wisdom’.
One of the most effective ways to teach this principle is to teach the child “if, then” statements.
For example, an “if, then” statement would be “If you do not clean up your room, then you will receive a time out.”
When we teach a child that there will be a consequence and then follow through, the child learns to make certain choices and those choices will lead to certain consequences.
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Love and play with your child. The ability to give and receive love and have close committed relationships is one of the three most important things of life.
Become good at giving love and give it often. If affection is good, abundant affection is a lot better.
Don’t be stingy in showing those you care about that you love them.
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Parents are the best people to teach a child the role of consequences in life - both positive and negative. When a parent continues to parent through the child’s resistance, the child will learn three essential lessons:
- Respect
- Increase in love, bonding, and attachment—the child learns that they can trust you
- Cooperation
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Research showed last week that the average kid spends 53 hours a week with electronic media / entertainment.
Martin Seligman, Ph.D., a premier psychologist and researcher found that to much leisure time creates depression.
Some of the greatest longitudinal research in child psychology out of Harvard University found that there was one thing parents could do to raise happy, healthy, successful kids.
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Externally Validated
We all need validation. Validation means to make something valid, substantiate, or confirmed. Emotional validation boils down to receiving feedback from what we do and say. Everyone wants to be validated; however, there are two types of validation—one is healthy and one is not.
The two types of validation are external validation and internal validation.
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Be available for your children
- Notice times when your kids are most likely to talk--for example, at bedtime, beforedinner, in the car--and be available.
- Start the conversation; it lets your kids know you care about what's happening intheir lives.
- Find time each week for a one-on-one activity with each child, and avoidscheduling other activities during that time.
- Learn about your children's interests--for example, favorite music and activities--and show interest in them.
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Six myths surround stress. Dispelling them enables us to understand our problems andthen take action against them. Let's look at these myths.
Myth 1: Stress is the same for everybody.
Completely wrong. Stress is different for each of us. What is stressful for one personmay or may not be stressful for another; each of us responds to stress in an entirelydifferent way.
Myth 2: Stress is always bad for you.
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